Perhaps all of us have experienced a time when we were belittled by a leader for a mistake we made. Some leaders make themselves feel better by making others feel worse. This isn't the way of Jesus.
A leader should mourn the errors of his team. What did I miss as a leader? Did we train well? Did we count all the costs and consider all possibilities for this project? Did we have a backup plan?
Many of us have felt at some time in our career that we were "set-up to fail." I've never understood that claim, but I understand that after a bad day with a project it can feel as if someone was expecting failure at my expense. Was I the project
scapegoat who forgot to escape?
Leaders must mourn the fact that we didn't provide the resources, thinking and time required to set up the project to succeed. In our mourning, we must learn from all that went wrong and know that surely better days are ahead. We must deal with our own shortcomings long before we speak with others about their mistakes.
The Lord tells us in Mathew 5:4, "Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted.
I believe that the Lord's message about mourners is of great importance to leaders. We are to mourn when we see ourselves and others behave like the carnal-minded. Repentance is comforting. I know when I err
toward others and bellow with the strength of man, I miss God's favor and comfort.